Lost deep in thought, he felt a sudden prickling on his skin, flesh raised in goose bumps. He raised his head and scanned the crowded, smoky room. Near the front door, he saw a silhouette, a slim figure with long, silky hair, lifting her slender arm in greeting to their host. She hesitated for a moment, and almost as if she could feel the weight of his stare, she turned to look directly at him. Their eyes locked for long seconds…
And, they fall instantly in love! Can this be possible, or are we fooling ourselves? Do we really recognize our soul mates instantly, or is this just lust? Are we misunderstanding our own body’s signals?
There is no doubt that we all have an innate need to reproduce, and the law of natural selection means that we seek out the most compatible, the most superior and the strongest genes instinctively. ‘Survival of the fittest’ is a basic evolutionary concept, after all. And, when we fall for someone, perhaps it’s just our instincts telling us that this is our evolutionary partner—the most compatible match for our future gene pool.
Isn’t it possible then, that ‘love at first sight’ is simply a concept that is easier to grasp, and therefore more popular, than ‘survival of the fittest’; that the two are essentially the same thing?
So, when our parents select our mates for us (as they do in this part of the world), are they also selecting the ‘fittest’ mate for their child? Do our ‘survival’ instincts work just as well for our children?
Or have I just found a rational, scientific reason to step back from arranged marriages, and let more ‘love marriages’ flourish?